Jul
20
2017
Are you in need of a confidence boost at work?
Confidence is something that many people struggle with on a daily basis, in fact 32% of British employees are afraid of putting their own ideas forward. On top of this, one in five consider themselves a push-over; it’s clear that confidence is a common problem in the workplace. But it doesn’t have to be this way! With a bit of Personal effectiveness training you’ll be speaking up in meetings, asking for that pay rise, and talking confidently to clients.
What exactly is confidence?
Confidence, (n) Firm trust or belief in oneself; freedom from apprehension; an assurance of manner
Looking at this definition, there are some key points we’ll need to harness in order to become confident. Firstly, a trust or belief in yourself; secondly, freedom from fear; and finally, self-assurance. On paper that seems easy, but we all know that the reality can be much harder.
Know the traits of confident people
If we were to break the personalities of different confident people down we would find a key set of traits within each of them. These traits are almost like parts of an equation that results in a confident person when added together.
Generally, confident people…
- maintain eye contact
- speak so that everyone can hear
- fill the space around them
- appear relaxed
- engage/communicate with the audience rather than with themselves
- appear to know what is expected of them
- are not self absorbed - they refer to other people’s concerns/what other people have said/to other people present
Being aware of these traits gives you the chance to use them in your daily life. Try some of them out one at a time; make an effort to maintain eye contact in that meeting, speak up at lunchtime, and ask people about themselves as you make a cup of tea. At first it may feel a little forced, but after some practice you’ll be doing it naturally!
Embrace the power of positive
People lacking in confidence are usually really hard on themselves, but thinking positively about yourself will really help boost your confidence levels. If you like yourself other people will too!
Start making a conscious effort to stop the negative voices, as soon as you hear “don’t bother speaking up, it’s a stupid idea” in your head banish it and replace it with “you have the right to share your ideas!” You could even try looking in the mirror at yourself and repeating “you’re good, you’ve got what it takes”.
Feel comfortable disagreeing
Confident people don’t think twice about voicing their opinion when they disagree with someone, likewise they’re comfortable saying “no” when necessary. In contrast, those lacking in confidence want to avoid conflict and always say “yes” which can result in high levels of stress.
It’s okay to say no, and it’s okay to disagree! It’s important to be clear why you’re disagreeing/saying no and to state your reasons, but you’re entitled to your opinion just as much as anyone else! You don’t even have to apologise, just be direct and believe in yourself and your abilities.
Want to know more about how to boost your confidence at work? Take a look at our Personal effectiveness course here, or call us on 020 7490 3030
